When you’re in college you feel like anything is possible and that there is world of opportunities just outside your doorstep waiting for you to come grab them! So what happens when you graduate from college? Do these opportunities just vanish suddenly? Of course not! But like everything else- this is much easier said than done. There are ample prospects for those who seek them but it isn’t as simple as you thought it would be!
You’ve had the opportunity to experience college and you should be grateful for that because not everyone gets the chance, most people never get to experience those kind of carefree times! So just because it is over are you going to sit and mope about it for the rest of your life or accept the challenge that life has thrown at you? Are you going to move forward or live in your memories thinking about the ‘glory days’? Because let me tell you, if you do that you’re going to lose out on so many amazing things and life will pass you by because you were too busy living in the past.
You always hear people older than you say “Enjoy your college days because they will be the best days of your life!” And while this may be true to a certain extent, it’s not the whole truth! Sure it is the last time in your life when you will be completely carefree and when you can actually get drunk on a Monday afternoon without people throwing you judgmental looks or hang out with your buddies till 2 a.m. on a weekday but is this what you want to do for the rest of your life? Before you answer with a deafening ‘yes’ think about this – do you know who you truly are? Outside the standard societal norms, can you explain what drives you more than anything else in the world?
College was fun and amazing and everything was pre-decided for you. All you had to do was show up to class (which you didn’t do most of the times) and not get caught drunk or doing drugs. It was easy, your only focus was to learn something new every day and pass your exams.
So far in your life you hadn’t experienced any struggle especially if your parents paid your bills so what you’re really depressed about is not that college is over but the fact that you have to deal with the ‘real’ world and ‘adult’ responsibilities!
In the real world nothing is decided for you, you have the opportunity to choose your own path in life and nothing is scarier than having that much freedom – the fear of the unknown. It’s the sort of freedom you’ve never experienced before. And the toughest question to answer is “How do you know if the decisions you make today are the right ones for your future?” The answer may disappoint you but there is no way! You just have to take risks, plunge into the deep end and hope for the best.
Ok, I know you opened this article because you thought it would reassure you and I am doing none of that! But think about this – the best part is not knowing what happens next. You have the opportunity to rebuild and rediscover yourself. You can now do things because you want to do them and not because people expect it out of you. Sure you’ll have the pressure of marriage and having babies and your parents might want you to do it right away but the choice is still yours because you’re an actual adult now!
You will realise that the little things that mattered so much to you in college don’t even penetrate the first layer of your conscience anymore. You can do things without explaining to everyone around you why you’re doing them!
Not everyone can live their life the way they want to – you have to pay high price for this kind of freedom but if you have the courage to do it then you will experience a whole different kind of joy. The joy of being your own damn guardian angel.
Everyone has the freedom to choose whatever direction they want to. You can study three years of Business only to realise Culinary is your true passion or you can take a job in Europe because you want to – the world is your oyster!
Sure everything is different and your best friend from high school may have moved to the United States. But every obstacle thrown at you is an opportunity for you to better yourself and mould yourself into a solid human being. Things will not be easy and life will not be served to you on a silver platter. You will have to work really hard to make things happen. You’ll experience self-doubt and you’ll be scared as shit but remember everything will be ok because you have truly just started living!