What do you want out of the rest of your life? What do you want to create? Do you wish to change the world? Then clearly you have no time for stupid things like relationships and dates. Life is long and you’ll figure out how to compatibly live with someone, somewhere along the way right? Your 20’s are for making your career, for creating the next big thing and for making your mark in the world. Everything else can wait.
Well, you couldn’t be more wrong! Sure everyone around you is telling you to hold off jumping into a serious relationship and to focus on building a reputation for yourself and your company and if everyone is telling you the same thing, then they must be right! But consider this – time is finite! Everyone is allotted only 24 hours a day and it is up to you to decide what you want to do with those 24 hours. You can spend the entire day going from meeting to meeting and staring at your computer screen or you can take out some time from your busy schedule and learn to live a little.
Sure you have a stellar work ethic and show up to work at 8 a.m. every morning and leave at 10 p.m. every night, how are you supposed to find the time to actually have a relationship in the midst of all this? I completely get where you’re coming from but if you were to die in car crash tomorrow would your last words be – ‘I wish I had spent more time at the office’? Would you regret not having built the perfect product, service or whatever the damn hell you were trying to create or would you regret not spending more time with the people you love?
What if you met someone and you knew they could be the one for you? Would you go for it or would you let the opportunity pass you by because the time wasn’t right? Would you try and find out if you’ll could actually be something? Because there is no right time only lost causes and missed opportunities! Yes, you could use the same quote for your work life and it would be equally true but what I’m really trying to say is that do what YOU want to do and what your heart desires!
Maybe you aren’t ready to settle down yet and no one is asking you to do that, besides great things do not come easily! Don’t let the illusion that you will have time to do everything you want to do distort your world view because even though you feel like you have the rest of your life in front of you, time will fly by faster than you realise. You have to learn how to create a balance between your personal and professional life.
Because in a few years when you’re thirty and still trying to learn the basics of relationship etiquette, no one is going to wait around for you till you figure things out and every relationship goes through ups and downs, you’ll also have to learn to deal with that.
You have to learn how to compromise and trust your partner. These issues cannot be taken lightly, you cannot just magically expect to be in a two-person relationship without spending a single day learning how to work on your issues.
You might go astray and cheat on your partner or your partner might fall out of love with you. Experiencing heart-break for the first time is the most soul crushing thing on this entire planet! It does get easier with time but the pain of having loved and lost never really fades away, feeling this in your 30’s might make you close off to any new commitments and before you know it, it will be too late to meet someone new.
Don’t be swept away by norms and notions that the society thrusts at you, whether it is getting married at twenty-four, having kids at twenty-eight or concentrating on your career till twenty-something. Age is just a number and if you let your life revolve around doing things at the ‘right-time’ you’re going to miss out on so much.